Day 53 (of 189) talking about mental health … even in #Movember it’s not just a men’s issue with ❤️ to @hattiegladwell
I appreciate seeing all the hairy faces – from moustaches to “more” that indicate an interest in willingness to talk about health issues – #colchat could easily have had a bonus session just talking about this with the comods already embracing the furry look. My own November growth is coming in….
But I also saw a tweet reminder that there are also other people struggling at different levels and needing different lenses:
-I’m actually really struggling but don’t want to waste your time
– I’m scared if I tell you what’s wrong you’ll say say something to make me feel worse
-You won’t believe me anyway”
A tough tweet to read and respond appropriately to.
We still need to change our lenses on mental health – for men’s and women’s sakes. @hattiegladwell continues to be an amazing advocate for showing why we need to see the mental health as important as the physical health.
And as my mobro ( https://ca.movember.com/mospace/ ) reminder for the middle of the month points out , there is not an easy visual of “what ‘it’ looks like”:
Unlike those people who have casts or wheelchairs, there is never a clear marker – so we have to accept the words we hear. And not think/say things like:
- You think you have it bad?
- Suck it up
- It’s not that bad
- Why can’t you just …..
- Sure – you just want attention/a day off/ etc
A good reminder that being sad does not equate to understanding depression
Worries are not the same as anxiety
(And as I said in my tedx talk – we wouldn’t equate a sore throat to somebody suffering throat cancer) https://youtu.be/V-JpBJal3F8
Let’s spend the second half of November being mindful of the words we hear from others, because “fine fine fine” rarely means “fine”…..